At The Road @ Chapel Hills, we believe in Biblical conflict resolution. People who are making The Road @ Chapel Hills their home church and desire to minister an serve with us are required to sign the Covenant of Harmony. This document outlines the Biblical principles regarding interpersonal relationships. To sign the Covenant of Harmony, download the PDF and return it be emailing us at or turning it into the Welcome Center in the lobby.
Covenant of Harmony Commitment
As a member of The Road, I recognize that we represent Christ and His Church. As such, we function on clearly defined biblical principles regarding interpersonal relationships both within The Road, as well as without, including how and what we communicate from our on-the-job experiences and situations with other believers and even nonbelievers whether within or without the church.
I hereby pledge in all I do to follow biblical principles that would seek always to foster harmony throughout fellowship of The Road. In accordance with the biblical mandate of Matthew 18:15-17, if I question the conduct of another, or if I hear of accusations that may be shared with me (or others) regarding a fellow brother or sister, no matter his or her position, I will go first to that specific person to discuss this matter with him or her before going to any other individual.
If there is a clear rejection of a genuine attempt to offer spiritual correction or admonition, I will further follow the Matthew 18:15-17 pattern and take with me another brother or sister to mediate the situation, carefully refusing to allow the matter to become a potential “seed of discord” (dissension) that once planted will ultimately become an abomination to God (Proverbs 6:16-19).
I further acknowledge that God’s biblical pattern of settling disputes among believers is never to seek a secular public forum (I Corinthians 6:1-8) but rather to go to responsible leadership in His Church for a full resolve of the situation.
I do recognize that to violate the above would be to openly declare my lack of trust in God’s biblical plan for harmony and would thereby position myself in opposition to what God Himself has declared to be His way of working healing in His Church. To be in such opposition would potentially disqualify me from future blessings of God because of my open disobedience to His Word.
I, therefore, in the true Spirit of Christ, who became a bondslave with the attitude of a servant (Philippians 2:5-8), hereby covenant with the members of The Road, to expose the accuser of the brethren (Revelation 12:10) whenever he attempts to gain a foothold among us. I will do this by prayerfully invoking and inviting the Encourager of the Brethren, Christ Himself (who is called in Scripture “The Lifter of My Head” – Psalm 3:3) to come and work His harmony and healing in every difficult situation I may encounter.
7 Practical Ways of Resolving Conflicts
1. We will meet face to face to resolve conflicts.
2. We will not use email or texting for resolving conflicts.
3. We will not write a letter unless the person reads it, during a face to face meeting.
4. We will use “I” messages, not “you” messages, in communication.
5. We will be willing to admit our error and contribution to a problem, before speaking the truth about a conflict.
6. We will choose to let the unity of love be our highest goal, not being right.
7. We will forgive the other person even if all the issues are not completely worked out.